Healing is something we all go through. We heal from childhood trauma, adult trauma and so much more. When healing most of the time we think it’s something that’s supposed to happen overnight. OR we believe that if we are still hurting from it we aren’t exactly healing. I am here to tell you, you are WRONG. Healing is a marathon not a sprint. When healing we process so many emotions that it takes time for one to truly heal. The beautiful part of the healing process is that when you least expect it you will look back and see how much progress you have made. Being that this month is Minority Mental Health Month I wanted to touch on different things when it comes to our mental health as a race. SO many times as a black woman we are taught that we are “strong” because we take traumas on and don’t exactly heal from them.
WHICH IS A HORRIBLE WAY OF THINKING!
Why is it that we are categorized as STRONG because of all the BS we are put through. I don’t like to think of that as strong. I want someone to consider me strong because I HEALED from the trauma that broke me not because I endured it. This is something we have to change the narrative on. Did you know there are 5 stages to a healing process? I have listed them below…
- Stage One: Grief And Denial.
- Stage Two: Anger.
- Stage Three: Bargaining.
- Stage Four: Depression.
- Stage Five: Acceptance.
One of the main things I want to accomplish with the space I have is to help women heal, mothers accomplish their goals, and be an inspiration to many that are on this journey called life but not exactly sure of their place right now. Mental Health is a serious matter in our black community and its because so many of our people haven’t properly healed. So if you are reading this and you know deep down you have some healing to do..GET TO IT SIS..Your future self will thank you, your children will thank you and so on… because at the end of the day if you aren’t healing your wounds they will just be passed down. If you are looking for metal health resources I have linked my last blog post here that list many resources for any moms or a person in general looking to start their journey at working on their mental health.
I saw this on twitter the other day and I have to share..
“Heal so you can hear what’s being said without the filter of your wound”
So start healing, its the only way we can all discover true HAPPINESS!